What’s Stopping You From Becoming Your Best Self?
Hey Sankofa Fam—this is Tamisha.
I know you’re used to hearing from Marcus on Mondays, but today, I felt called to share something that’s been stirring within me.
This month, we’re exploring the theme of Becoming—the sacred process of unfolding into who we’re meant to be.
People often ask when I began this work—when I started sharing wellness and healing practices with others. The truth is, I’ve been doing this work for over 15 years. But the journey of becoming? That started long before.
I stepped into leadership at a young age. Even then, I battled quiet doubts, inherited fears, and limiting beliefs that told me to wait… to shrink… to be anything but great. And still, something deep within me kept whispering: There’s more.
I’ve been reflecting on that whisper—on growth, on the ways we expand when we allow ourselves to, and on the excuses we make when fear convinces us to stay the same.
So today, I want to ask you:
Who are you not to become the greatest version of yourself?
Who are you not to be powerful?
Who are you not to be joyful, whole, and deeply well?
Yesterday, I shared a set of journal prompts to reflect on the space in between—that sacred place where you’re no longer who you were, but not yet who you’re becoming. A space of stretch, of tension, of quiet emergence.
That space deserves care. It deserves attention. It deserves language.
And I asked:
If you weren’t afraid of change, who would you allow yourself to become?
What stories about yourself no longer serve your evolution?
How can you support your own unfolding with intention and care?
Here’s the truth: I’m not asking you to compare yourself to who you were 10 or 20 years ago. That version of you hadn’t lived this life yet. Hadn’t weathered these storms, or danced in these moments of joy.
The greatest version of you isn’t in the distant past or some far-off future.
It’s the version of you right now—the one who’s still standing.
The one who’s carried grief, healed wounds, rebuilt joy, and found clarity on the other side of chaos.
The one who has made it through everything you once thought might break you.
So why doubt yourself now?
Why believe you are anything less than worthy of the peace, strength, and joy you’ve fought so hard to find?
Why let other people—or past versions of yourself—define what’s possible?
Your best life isn’t a fantasy.
It’s the life you live when you give yourself permission to show up fully:
To live without apology.
To rest without guilt.
To feel without shame.
To thrive without waiting for the perfect moment.
And yes, pain—whether physical, emotional, or spiritual—may still live in your body. But it is not all of who you are.
You are more than your wounds.
You are more than your worry.
This moment—this season—might feel unfamiliar.
But it is your moment to live.
To root into your truth.
To stretch into your becoming.
To breathe into who you are becoming—with softness, with grace, with intention.
You don’t have to rush.
But you do have to believe:
You are not behind.
You are not too late.
You are exactly where your becoming begins.
Becoming isn’t a date or a job title—it’s a process. A stretch. A sacred unfolding.
~Tamisha aka "Doc"